Robyn's Story
The Founder
“Well, I guess this is as good as life gets,” is not exactly a sentence you’d expect Robyn, Empowerment Coach and Living-Life-to-the-Fullest Enthusiast, would say if you met her today.
"Well, I guess this is as good as life gets."
And yet, this was exactly what Robyn used to tell herself all the time.
She was suffering with a toxic, limited, disempowered mindset, and was consequently living a toxic, limited, disempowered life.
When sadness or depression would set in, she would say things like “I guess this is as good as it gets for me,” and “millions of women have much harder lives, I should be grateful for what I do have,” to make herself feel better and to stay complacent in her misery.
Growing up, she assumed people fell into two categories: those who make the world a better place, and those who receive the benefits of the other group’s hard work.
She always wanted to be part of the former, but she was only familiar with certain kinds of professions that made up that group of changemakers, and she didn’t fit any of them. Doctors, nurses, educators, diplomatic ambassadors and social activists,
Robyn believed she simply didn’t make the cut as a nervous, insecure young woman who fainted at the sight of blood. These kinds of heroes had confidence, had ideas and opinions. They had charisma; all things she thought she lacked, but really simply couldn’t access at the time.
Carrying this paradigm and self-image into her 20s, she found herself living in a cricket-infested basement apartment with an abusive boyfriend, working 3 jobs to make ends meet, constantly stressed, with a defensive, cynical worldview that infected everything she touched.
5 years into a decaying relationship and 20 years into a stifling self-image, a startling realization hit her like a bolt of lightning:
“I’m already living my future.”
It was as if she had suddenly jolted awake from a dark dream-state and could see clearly for the first time. She realized no one was coming to save her, she in fact had pushed everyone away who had tried. She was living the same existence over and over again every day, and nothing was going to change unless SHE did.
From that exact moment, she focused all her energy on taking the next right step: leaving.
In her mind at the time, she thought she was leaving the relationship and the apartment, but she was really leaving so much more: the belief that she deserved a miserable life, the patterns of self-sabotage, a sense of comfort in the familiar, even though the familiar was destructive.
"I'm already living my future."
She spent the next few years building a new life and a new sense of identity, feeling more momentum, feeling more of everything. Her previous chapter had been numbing, this chapter was being written with intention to make up for lost time.
Her newfound sense of freedom combined with her unresolved sense of resentment for her former life and her still-in-tact paradigm of not being one of the people who truly mattered in the world led to a fast-paced work hard, play hard existence.
She spent the next few years building a new life and a new sense of identity, feeling more momentum, feeling more of everything. Her previous chapter had been numbing, this chapter was being written with intention to make up for lost time.
Her newfound sense of freedom combined with her unresolved sense of resentment for her former life and her still-in-tact paradigm of not being one of the people who truly mattered in the world led to a fast-paced work hard, play hard existence.
She knew she had wounds to face and tend to, but actively chose to turn away and focus on making the present moment as fun as possible.
In the midst of this whirlwind, she met her now-husband, Tony, and found a sense of soul-recognition. His carpe diem perspective on life magnetized her, and the two moved across the country with no set plans, and just an intention to start a new life in San Francisco, California.
Two years into embedding themselves into the beating heart of Silicon Valley, a new sense of restlessness arose, and the voice that used to say “I guess this is as good as it gets” was now saying, more loudly every day, “There has got to be more to life than this!”
From the outside, Robyn wanted for nothing. It looked like a life many would love, and many probably do, to this day, love. But there was a key component disrupting the satisfaction: she was meant for a different purpose.
The realization translated into an apparent dispassion for her work, and she was eventually let go. The firing bruised her ego, and the fear reactions and defensive habits kicked in right on cue, so she started applying to the exact same position at different organizations without thinking.
When you don’t recognize opportunities to evolve, you can only run the same patterns as before.
Luckily, Tony noticed the long term dead-end of this move, and encouraged her to pause and allocate some time to discover what she’d love to do vocationally instead. This pause turned out to be exactly the space she needed to slow down and listen to the voice telling her she was meant for something else.
In her exploration, she discovered her first coach, and it was during that very first conversation two critical revelations occurred:
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She came alive at the thought of empowering women to see themselves as more than they previously had allowed themselves, and
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Coaching might be a fun, interesting, and sustaining career path for her.
It is every action she has taken since that very first conversation back in 2015 with her very first coach that set a series of events, decisions, and opportunities in motion that have culminated in the work that Robyn loves doing today as an Empowerment Coach for women.
The lives that have changed, those of her clients and her own, are a direct result of her saying YES to the voice telling her that she had something more ready to come alive through her. Robyn continues to stay in the support of a mentor and coaches as she stays committed to her own evolution, and constantly evolves the resources and services she in turn offers her clients as she lives into her passion of empowering women.
It is her utmost honor and privilege to help you Own This Life by helping you dream up and dive into a life that absolutely lights you up!